Women go on a lot of bad dates before they find ‘the one”, and sometimes the burning desire for a soulmate is enough to make us look in the wrong direction for one. This is a reminder that you should know your worth and never settle for anything less than it. However, navigating all those red flags in the dating world to find a man that treats you right can be difficult. Some men are absolutely fine with dating for years on end but won’t take that leap to propose, even if you’re total wifey material. Here are all the non-marriage material men to steer clear of.
1.The clubbing guy
You should also probably avoid dating DJs. These guys have what’s known as “Peter Pan Syndrome” or the lack of desire to grow up and become an adult. All they want to do is party and not think about their future. Being with the life of the party can be tempting, but it might be more practical to date someone that thinks about the future and not only the present.
2. The man who has a lot of exes
This doesn’t exactly mean that he’s a catch. In fact, it could mean the opposite. Even though we all have past relationships, if he has more exes than you can count, it’s a big flag that he’s not the most commitment-minded person. While people can change, there’s generally a common denominator here that should act as a warning, whether that means he’s a commitment-phobe or a cheater. You should also avoid if he’s still hung up on his ex.
3. The man who loves strip clubs
Unless you’re totally cool with this or you like to go out to the strip clubs with him (we’re not judging) a man who wants to spend time away from you to see women undress frequently is probably not the best hubby material. Regular strip club visitors are focused on throwing their hard-earned money at pretty girls, rather than spending it on you.
4. He won’t talk about the relationship
If he gets uncomfortable or directly avoids talking about the future of the relationship or working through conflict, it probably means he still wants to be single or hasn’t fully discovered his identity yet. If you allow him to refuse to talk about the relationship, you give him the control and the message that he can live the life he wants without having to make any sacrifices or compromise.
5. The man who doesn’t invite you out
If a guy thinks you’ll be in his future long enough to get married, he’ll be excited about showing you off to the world, including his friends and family. Wanting independent space is fine, but if he’s avoiding introducing you or taking you out to party settings, it essentially means he’s hiding you, and you deserve more than that. Whether it’s cheating or just wanting to go out with his bros without you all the time, neither is a great sign.
6. The wanderlust man
A man that constantly wants to travel can be attractive, but if you don’t want to lead that same lifestyle or have a job that requires you to stay in one place, the relationship might not work out. Usually, an addiction to travel means a lack of desire to settle down. If he can’t commit to one place, can he truly commit to one partner for the rest of his life?
7. The workaholic
Being passionate about your livelihood isn’t a bad thing, but when you prioritize it over anything else in your life, especially a relationship, that ethic can go from hardworking to obsessive. If bae is always thinking about his career and constantly on his phone or computer doing work, then he’s probably more invested in his career than a future with you.
8. Mama’s boy
Treating your mom is obviously important – after all, we all love our mothers. But if his relationship with you is starting to be affected by his momma’s boy mentality, it’s a warning. Especially if he goes to her before you for most things. If you choose a guy that has an unhealthy relationship with his mom and is a pushover with her, he’ll always end up choosing her over you.
9. The perfectionist
Perfectionists are also often control freaks. they’re not only meticulous about their housing, food, clothing, and routine, but about their partners as well. We all are human and have flaws, so having a partner that can’t understand that basic fact will ensure you’re not respected. He might still be wondering if his dream woman is out there, or if he’ll have to settle for you.